I realise that the title of this blog post sounds a bit far-fetched, or even impossible to achieve. However, the secret to being confident isn’t about how you appear, it is about how you think.
I honestly believe that everyone is capable of being confident, no matter what their circumstances are. Our perception of confidence is often frayed by movies or TV shows – where you should be pretty, tall and slick to be confident. Type casting should be a thing of the past. The truth is, being confident is about realising why you are here.
Am I here to adhere to the norms? Am I here to please everyone? Am I here to put everyone’s happiness ahead of my own? NO! You are here to figure out what makes you happy and do it. You are here to speak your mind, to follow your dreams, to change the norms. I know, I know this post may be a bit melodramatic, but please believe me when I say confidence is a mindset that you will not regret adopting. It comes with deepening your understanding of yourself and your meaning.
Have you ever been self-conscious about your weight? Have you every wondered if those girls are whispering about you? Have you ever been afraid to do something in fear of judgement or rejection? Same. We are all human and I am not saying that there is some magic potion to make you the most outgoing person on the planet. However, I do think that each and every person reading this blog, should take a step back and ask themselves: Am I here, to do what I’m doing?
If not, then change that. The past year for me has been such a turning point in who I am as a person. I have mentioned it before on the blog, but being who I want to be is so freeing. In the grand scheme of things our struggles and insecurities will do nothing but hold us back from what we should be doing. Speaking our mind, following our dreams and changing the norms.
Disregard all ‘advice’ along the way, such as: ‘Nobody likes a show off’ or ‘don’t get ahead of yourself there now’ I promise that once you start listening to yourself, confidence will ooze from all aspects of your personality. Remember, it is not a certain appearance, it is a mindset. Only you can control it.
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